When we think of compassion, we instinctively think of others. Compassion is often expressed through genuine caring thoughts or deeds, concern for other’s well-being, conveying sympathy, love and kindness.
But, have you ever thought about practicing compassion for yourself? I encourage you to try with these simple steps below. If you tend to be a very giving person, this may take more practice.
Start by detaching from any existing definition of compassion. That means detaching from how we think things should be- or how we think things may have been- and begin to look at things in the present moment.
This short 3-step self-compassion meditation can be used anytime of day and typically takes only 5-minutes. Find a quiet place to sit comfortably and where you won’t be interrupted, then take a deep breath in and exhale out slowly (longer than the inhale) and repeat 3 times.
1. Apply the feeling of concern to yourself – Ask yourself how you’re feeling, if you’re struggling with something you might tell yourself, “I’m struggling with (fill in the blank.)
2. Respond to yourself with sympathy – Say to yourself, “It is ok to struggle, we all struggle sometimes.”
3. Practice love and kindness – Tell yourself, “I feel better because I took time to show compassion to myself.”
Repeat Steps 1, 2 & 3 until you feel still, quiet and peaceful. To finish, take a deep breath exhaling out slowly and experience contentment.