Have you ever found yourself dwelling on a past event that happened days, weeks, months or even years ago? Dwelling on an event that happened in the past, like an old movie playing in our minds can carry repeated pain and stress on the mind and body. This stress not only reflects in mental anguish but it can also impact our physical well-being. This may even show up in our verbal and facial expressions as anger making us appear old and tired.
This is why we all must learn to practice forgiveness. I say “learn” because forgiveness takes practice and it does not mean that we will forget—human nature is that our keen minds will rehash a memory at the most inconvenient time if triggered by an associated event. Though if we make a conscious choice to “learn” to forgive, then we have a strategy to challenge these memories when they resurface in our minds. By practicing forgiveness, we start a positive process that can lead to great relief and happiness.
I imagine that many of you reading this blog may feel that there is someone that you will never forgive, so I invite you to try. By holding onto resentment and anger, we give power to the person or thing that caused pain and stress. Forgiveness is not easy but if we spend more time “learning” to forgive and less time replaying an old movie in our head, we take the power back to live happier in the present moment.
A positive mind is the first step to living a happy and healthy life.