I was recently reminded how important it is to find the strength to say no. Saying no to a family member, boss or coworker or even friend is never easy, especially for those of us who are people pleasers. The danger in not saying no is the impact on both our minds and bodies and possibly having them both react negatively. We might find ourselves getting less sleep, grabbing an unhealthy bite to eat in a hurry, or skipping a workout. These are all red flags that we need to slow down and learn to say no. It may make us feel selfish at times, because it seems rude or uncooperative. However, learning to comfortably say no is like having a free ticket to staying healthy in both mind and body and it will help us avoid catching the latest virus or risk some other physical ailment or injury that is out of our control when our bodies are run down or moving too fast. Try saying no and become happier, healthier and more at peace with life.
Here are some of my suggestions for learning to say no:
- Delay your response, saying you need to check your schedule. This will give you time to decide if you can fit this request into your day or week before overextending yourself.
- Use a positive statement expressing your appreciation for being asked and a “maybe next time” rather than simply saying no.
- If the request goes against your moral beliefs or is something that you just don’t enjoy doing, say “no, thank you” with confidence, without regret, and without adding any excuses.
- Lastly, remember to prioritize your schedule blocking time for yourself and use this time to build a healthy lifestyle, i.e.: get some rest, read a book, listen to music, take a walk, get a workout in, or enjoy time with someone important to you.